Fastexy Exchange|Advice to their younger selves: 10 of our Women of the Year honorees share what they've learned

Our USA TODAY Women of the Year honorees are Fastexy Exchangedirectors, attorneys and chefs. They run nonprofits and companies.

But they weren't always in charge.

They've learned so many things along the way.

They have learned from their parents and mentors, but also just from living.

We wanted to know: What would you tell your younger self?

Model and writer, Paulina Porizkova said. "I know that giving myself advice when I was 18 is a bad idea, because I would've never taken any older woman's advice. I didn't take anybody's advice at 18. I thought I knew it all. So I wouldn't give myself any advice. Just like, 'Hey, you know what? School of hard knocks, you'll figure it out.' "

Here's what they said they wish they would have known, and would have told their younger selves.

'Trust yourself'

"There's so much there's so much that that I've had to overcome in my lifetime and through these decades. So much of writing is self-motivation, is believing in yourself, is investing in this long road where you won't see the fruits of it right away but it is important to plant the seeds and have faith in your own abilities," says Lily Tuzroyluke, of Alaska. Her debut novel "Sivulliq: Ancestor" was a part of the Library of Congress' Great Read from Great States list for 2023.

'More honey, less vinegar'

"Don't be so angry and frustrated when things don't go your way. Approach people with humility, patience and understanding," says Carla Crowder of Alabama. Crowder is an attorney and writer and the executive director of Alabama Appleseed, which is an organization that fights for justice and equality.

'You're young and still learning'

"Move forward and continue to learn no matter what and where you are," says Lucy Jones of California.

'Follow your heart'

"I always wanted my own restaurant. I dreamt of it as a little girl." says Sherry Pocknett of Connecticut.

'A non-decision is a decision'

"Younger Toni was not as decisive. She spent a lot of time rethinking and re-litigating her decisions. Younger Toni was so concerned about making a poor decision that she didn't realize that a non-decision is in fact a decision. 

When you're in a situation where you're the only person who looks like you in the room, you're hyper-conscious of the effect of your decisions. If it's not right, it's not just me who will be critiqued. Maybe others who look like me will be critiqued. I carried that pretty heavily early in my career and I was slower in my decision-making, and it cost me certain opportunities in business," says Toni Townes-Whitley, CEO of the SAIC.

'Live in the moment'

"You're going to get old fast. As I've gotten older, I just think we take for granted some of the things that happen when we're younger. We just do. Our bodies don't work the same as we get older. And at 18, you totally take it for granted. I always say this: When I was 16, I knew everything and now I'm in my 50s and I know nothing.

I think bottom line is just don't take yourself so seriously when you're younger. I think we think it's the end all, be all and we have a whole life ahead of us that is meant to be lived, not a problem to be solved," says Hillary Shieve, of Washington, DC.

'Everyone turns into a swan at some point'

"Don’t let adversity hold space in your mind and your body and your soul . . . You’re just going to be you at the end of the day, so be the best version of you that you can be. Don’t worry about the small stuff. Don’t worry about popularity. It will all come into place," says Sgt. Colleen Adams, head of the mental health unit at the police department in Sanford, Maine.

'Don't make yourself small'

"There are too many people who will do that without your permission," says Minnesota Lt. Gov. Peggy Flanagan.

'It's not over 'til it's over'

"The darkest time of your life may be the beginning of a whole new chance to do good," says Michele Young, a mother of five and attorney. In 2018, Young was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer and given 1 in 100 odds of survival.

'Fasten your seatbelt because it's going to be a great ride'

"My younger self would be very proud of me now. I was a much braver younger self. My 14, 15-year-old Eva was brave and the world was her oyster, and I still feel that way. I still feel like my greatest accomplishments are ahead of me. I don't feel like, 'Oh, I did that show back then, that was a huge hit. I did this movie that was great.' I feel like I can't wait to see what's next," says Eva Longoria, actress and director.